Important tips for saving marriage from separation breakup or divorce

Marriages can be saved by using positive interpretation of partners behavior and attitude.

Importance of partners behavior in marriage

It is said that relationships are very much founded on how both the partners interpret each other’s behavior & attitude.

Importance of spouse to understand each other in marriage

The Interesting aspect is that both the Individuals remain same during the course of relationship like in normal conditions neither there is change in their education level nor maturity and also there is not much changes that can be observed in their individual habits.

Marriages witness change from sacrifices to hate amongst couples

The question then arises what makes the same couple start behaving in such a negative way towards each other that the same Individual with whom life used to be so much fulfilling and at one point of time when their relationship was at a peak level of positivity they were ready to sacrifice their lives blindly for the other partner.

Hate is slow poison for marriages

Now all of a sudden there exists so much hate and apathy that the same individual no more want to live together and each day now seems to be like a hell in their lives.

Negativity amongst spouse is biggest threat for marriages

As mentioned there are no major changes in the circumstances of both the partners neither there are any external factor that has caused this feeling of sudden distrust & lack of understanding between them.

Marriages witness shift from blind trust to doubting each other

It is simply the interpretation of each of theirs behaviors that has now got more full of negativity and the same person for whom there was a blind trust and unconditional affection and belongingness now seems to be the biggest enemy.

Stop fault finding to save marriages

The best and most important intervention in such cases where the partners are now interpreting each other with lot of skepticism & apprehension in terms of their every activity by the other partner is to stop this vicious circle of fault finding in the other partner.

Need to adopt realistic approach to save marriages

Instead both the partners must turn realistic to the family first mindset wherein the chidden , the aged parents and financial stress that this bitterness in their mutual relations is causing must be given consideration.

The harsh reality of divorce

The children ultimately suffer the major loss and that too this impact on the offspring is life long.

Philosophical intervention helps in normalizing marital relations

In the view of Stoicism and philosophers like Epicurus it is not the events alone that are the reason behind disturbance rather more importantly it is simply the interpretation of these events that is more responsible for the growth of negativity.

Urgent need to shed ego to save marital relations

There is an urgent need to shed the individual ego by both the partners and they must as a bottom-line think for the associated responsibilities that their decision to marry has now created.

Family responsibilities are a binding factor in marital discord

In other words it is somewhat like trying to save the relation not for Individual benefit but for the family as a whole. The family was once a vision of future for both of them and now due to sudden negative interpretation of the same relations it will be life long stigma for the their kids.

Priorities family over individualistic needs to solve marriage disputes

To conclude in order to save the relationship from falling prey to clutches of separation there is an urgent need to come out of interpreting the marriage bond in terms of individualistic aspirations and instead start interpreting it from the perspective of future of old parents & children and the associated suffering that their decision to separate may bring for the family as a whole.